Everyday somebody somewhere makes a different decision. Yep, you've heard the saying that speaks to "someone doing things in the same manner but expecting a different outcome" right? It's the same as a person walking around in a circle and expecting to end up in a different spot. Sounds crazy...but lots of people do it in life. With relationships, with their career, their mindset, their habits..it happens everyday.
No worries....bad habits can be broken and new thoughts added to the process. It can be done. Continue to chart your goals and set a deadline for each. This will force you to figure out what which steps need to be adjusted. You can also compare the steps of a past accomplishment to a current goal and see what you did to succeed, do what works. As the picture above reads, it's all a process not just one event, shit happens and then you figure it out.
This past weekend was one of those holidays that people poke fun of the mistress or side piece. You have ladies that revel in being that part-time lover <---- enjoy... they are of a special brood that I dare not attempt to understand...and then some ladies actually fall for a line from a guy that he will leave or is leaving his wife or some other line that keeps her in his life for years and years sometimes even with children born to their union. Now from this situation you have folks that want to change but even when they get free of one situation they roll into another similar situation. Not the mistress of a marriage but the mistress nonetheless, more of an after thought. NO he's not married but he is unavailable to you in the way that you need him to be. Hopeless romantics get caught up in situations like this, they hope for what they want and look for signs of possibility even though they know in their heart of hearts that nothing will change. The red flag to move is there but they don't want to ruin this comfortable moment...it's a moment...yes enjoy it but then let it go. Move on...a change has to come.
Check out your situation, your surroundings...now think about how your situation makes you feel. Are you happy? I mean really really happy? If the answer is yes then you are in a good place; if the answer is no then it's time to move....it's time for a change.
It's not going to be easy, it's not going to feel good at all. It's going to feel like you are pulling scab from a wound but if you're honest with yourself you'll admit that that wound had never really healed. Take your own happiness in your hands and heal yourself, get back to the things that make you think with a clear head and make the better decisions.
Congratulations on step 1...and hey....don't you move backwards! That situation may seem like a comfort zone but it's not...don't do it! Keep moving forward! The outcome will be a blessing for you in the long run.
The moral of today's blog story:
Forward movement..always forward movement. Make the change and enjoy the new rewards!
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