Control...Watch out for "Any Dude"

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I was speaking to a young lady the other day and she was sharing her new life moves with me.  She was hopng that her new life included a certain young man that she could count on.  But as soon as she really started sharing her action plans with him he immediately showed his true colors.  Yep, the control monster reared its ugly head quickly and tried to push pause on her dreams.  She stuck to her guns and disconnected from him immediately.

This conversation took me to a flashback of  some specific memories.  Made me think of times that I've allowed an insecure male individual to stop/pause a goal pursuit.  WHY? Because at the time, I had the preposterous idea that I needed this dude (we'll nickname him "Any Dude") in my life to check off something.  Don't get me wrong, I love our Kings and the right King is ideal for me but not just any dude.  We ladies have to be careful because "Any Dude" comes in all shapes, sizes and mindsets.  You see "Any dude" can be:

• One that doesn't have a plan and he wants you to not have a plan too.   
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• "Any Dude" may have some success under his belt but due to his childhood upbringing only knows how to attract and oppress a female individual.  He doesn't know how to uplift because he's never learned it.
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• "Any Dude" can also be manipulative and say the magic words and phrases to attract a motivated female individual with false support.  And at his self-appointed time he will launch the "let me try to stop her" plan.  
• If the female individual is strong-willed and determined, she will see the light immediately and break off any connection.  
• If the female individual is wavering in the self-esteem department, sadly "Any Dude" has a chance of succeeding and crazy enough it makes him happy.

Sadly, "Any Dude" operates in a world of control.  He LOVES to control other people, it gives him power, in his mind at least.

I encourage my fellow female individuals to organize your list, make a plan and work your plan.  Check your list to make sure you stay on track.  When obstacles come your way, adjust.

Control can be good and bad.  On one hand, definitely make sure your life is stable but on the other hand don't try to control EVERYthing because some things are beyond that word; everything in moderation.  There are some moments when you have go with the flow, still going forward, still working the plan go forward with a success.  When you try to control EVERYthing, you literally arrest your ideas, and what happens when someone is under arrest?  Yes they are stopped and locked up and that's what happens to your goals/dreams.

Lastly, don't get caught up in the bright lights and get distracted.  Distraction is when "Any Dude" is able to slip in.

The title/topic is "Control".....watch out for that mindset.  It can create chaos and confusion AND stop you from reaching your goals.  Oh yes, one more thing......stay away from "Any Dude"!

Peace and Blessings....

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Running From Yourself...

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Just a few words for wisdom and encouragement before you start your day.

We are born with a purpose.  Some get to know theirs before others...others give up...others keep going in the hopes that ONE day the answer will come.  In a different category, some figure it out and then run from it in the name of FEAR.  Coming from a SHECreatediT business seminar yesterday (9/21/14),  I had the pleasure of sitting in front of an awesome person, Myron Schippers.   and listen about Goal Setting.  Among the other information that was disseminated at this think tank/meeting of the minds, I got the definition of FEAR: False Evidence Appears Real

Fear makes us run from our objectives, makes us run from ourselves.  What does that mean? It means, you know you are an artist (your purpose), meaning you have a gift that plagues you day in and day out because it's not being fed and created.  Developing your gift will take creativity and work to be successful, so to run away from it.  How?  You take a job in corporate america to get comfortable and get a guaranteed check.  OH wow! you have a paycheck every two weeks and benefits...you are comfortable yet miserable.  Miserable because your gift is still dancing in your mental waiting to manifest.  Yes! Your gift is present and you dabble in it and each time you dabble you get this feeling of contentment...contentment because you are where you are supposed to be.

I can only speak for me so I'll use me as an example - singing/pianist.  I do it/have done it got scared and I ran...once I started running I kept making up excuses of why I was running.  Even though I'm surrounded by people that are making it happen, I see the process I see them go from planning on paper to fruition and still the excuses come of why I can't do it.  And the more excuses that come up, the worse I feel.  The cycle has to change, the cycle is changing, running around in a circle makes me dizzy.  A good friend of mine just said "stop going back in time" she wasn't talking about this blog or the topic, she doesn't even know I'm writing this right now but it spoke to me because my downfall is to continue to look back on BAD things and allowing my future to be affected.  A question I pose to myself, "what about the GOOD things?  Why not reflect on those and allow my future to be affected?"  Great question self.  We're working on that right now! (Read "Pregnant With A Purpose")

• First step - Vision Board in full effect!
• See it/ Plan it/Do it
• Second step - Create the plan
• Third step - Do the plan
• Constant step - Adjust the plan (always)

The moral of this story:

Stop running from your destiny!  Stop letting a made up feeling stop you from being totally happy!  Quit settling for less than....get more than...get YOUR more than!

Peace and Blessings!

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America The Brutal-ful and the Financed

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I had a chance to have a convo with a young man from another country about his move to the United States.  The company I work for has international offices and we have international interns and employees so my assumption is a Visa and here to go to school and/or work,  I was not ready for what I was about to hear.

So, apparently the process is as follows:

1. Person approaches the embassy to advise of wanting to come to the US.
2. A nonrefundable $$$$$$ amount is paid.
3. The embassy looks at the type of work that the person will be doing in the US.
4. If there is a need for that type of work, in their opinion, the Visa is approved or denied.
5. If the Visa is denied, the person does NOT get the money back.  So now they are still stuck in their country and out of $1000s of dollars.

We keep the money.  When I say "we" I mean my government not his.  Where is the dough flowing?  We have ALL types of issues going on in these United States.  There are all types of  revenue streams that flow elsewhere.  There is a group of people that have spent all of their lives holding on to their privileges.  I guess it makes sense to try to keep a group of people beneath you so you can feel powerful.  As many opportunities that we have, I just couldn't believe the process I mentioned above is in place anywhere or would ever be dreamed up.

I'm sure you're saying "you didn't say what country"....does it really matter?  This is crazy!  This is really crazy!

I was born and raised here and even though my brown skin is still sometimes mocked (even in 2014) I like this country, I've even served my country but dammit sometimes shit is just backwards!  Making people do what they have to do to scrape up and save money to only possibly lose it.  Totally backwards!

I normally give a word of encouragement during this part of the blog but I'm having a hard time thinking of anything to say.  I send positive vibes to those that are making a strong attempt to get to the states.  I pray that EVERYthing goes well and you are successful in all that you are striving to do.  Continue with your passion and birth your baby.  Don't let America, America suck it out of you.  Life can be brutal if you don't keep pushing forward.  In the words of a hip hop producer, it's all about the benjamins aka the cheddar aka the money.  Another cliche is money talks, bullshit walks.  Most of the business deals are made behind closed doors, in clubs, over drinks with money involved.  You scratch my back I'll scratch yours is another mindset used in business.  Just be careful and keep swimming.

Peace and Blessings...

Pregnant with a Purpose....

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The Word says "Write the Vision and make it plain" which goes along with the practical application of a Vision Wall.  If  you've never heard of a vision wall it's literally the practice of  making a poster board or use a wall to bring your visions/goals to life.  Yes, you use magazines and other print media and have a literal cut and paste happy time.  You will definitely find out more about yourself, some amazing things.  When you see it, it makes sense.  Patrick Love wrote a song that reiterates making the vision plain and reassures one that if the Lord said it, it is a done deal! (click here for a gospel eargasm)

It's been a minute since I've shared my words/thoughts. I promise I'm actively working on getting better about that.

I've been straddling the mediocre fence for several years.  I have a gift and I've had the pleasure of being connected with a host of folks that can REALLY make it happen in my life.  But fear has kept me from taking it all the way to the finish line.  It's a scary thing to know that you have a purpose and to know that you're too scared to make it happen.  My spirit-man reminds me daily that I have a job to do before I leave this earth and before I leave this earth it will get done.....by me.

So last night, my dreams had me roaming around the town not necessarily doing anything in particular and I was very very pregnant.  Felt like about 8 to 9 months along, I wasn't going into labor or anything but I was just really ready to give birth.  When I woke up I had to apologize to my heavenly Father for wasting what he gave me.  Because my dream emulated my life in Atlanta.  Roaming around doing this/that wasting energy and time and holding a "baby".  My musical gifts are there, I just didn't move with the mighty motivation that I should have.  The purpose is about to be birthed, vision board being created and I'm ready to stop being mediocre.  I knew I was getting restless because I've been looking at other job opportunities, don't get me wrong the company I've worked with is awesome but I've gotten into a comfortable rut which is NOT good. So at this point when I do make a move it will not be to another distraction from my purpose.  So guess what readers... I'M PREGNANT....with a purpose and it's about to be born.

I want to encourage you! If there is anything you are holding back on due to fear, let the fear go for faith.  Switch it up!  Instead of speaking "less than" into your life, speak "more than".  So be encouraged...live your life the way you were born to live it!  Don't look for others to encourage you, look in the mirror and encourage yourself.
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Peace & Blessings.....

Nissa K

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