I will not stand for...

I'm taking a bite from the apple of the "I will not stand for" commercial where the people sit down and have different issues printed on their t-shirts.  Well I will not stand for...
Natural Hair Ignorance!!!!!!

Ok, let me give you a little history.  Growing up during the time of you have to "good hair and be light skinned" to be automatically liked (or hated),all other hair textures and skin color had to prove themselves.  Crazy right? Well guess what, the skin color part is s-a-l-o-w-l-y tapering but the hair thing is front and center.  I remember, i fell into the trap of "i like light skinned dudes with good hair" for a short time but then i kept seeing these dark-skinned beautiful brothers and soon fell out of that but THEY were into light so that kinda dampened my self-esteem a tad.  However, the first time I saw one of my cousin's cousin...a beautiful dark skinned girl with long, coal black curly hair.  I was like ok, i'm good! And then I saw Whitney Houston with her brown skinny self on the front of 17 magazine (one of my faves) with a short natural looking 'do AND sanging (something else i did back then) and I was really "Good".  But I'd still get the "you look cute to be dark-skinned". WTF???? What the heck does that mean???? Ok ok ok ok sorry I need to digress...

Ok back on topic, even today in 2012 I was in a group conversation and this lady was saying she was natural and said that she loved my hair (i'd just taken it down from a two-strand and had a scarf wrapped around it).  So one lady says "oh you got that good hair".  Those words are like finger nails on a chalk board to me!! What in the heck is "good hair" except the fact that you have hair on your head...well good!  The reason this statement was said is that she'd had her hair pressed and it was straight, beautiful length and i have other natural friends that do the same thing and i admit it's beautiful and stuff but with my 4b/4c (kinky/curly) stuff, once the elements hit it i'd have something like half straight/half curly..nah, I'll just stick with curly. LOL!  So anyway, the lady continued to talk and say well everybody can't wear that natural, we need it straight.  I got those beady beads so I can't do it like you and annissa.  I said well I have the type of hair that is referred to as how did you just describe it "beady beads" and it's no problem.  It's all in the product.  I will no longer stand for natural hair ignorance!  It's too many real salons available now that can give you a professional consultation without you still acting like you are a part of the salon scene in Spike Lee's "School Daze". Ugh!

Which brings me to my next soap box..  Products

I will not stand for all of these products that do NOT work and you know they don't work.  But you shady manufacturers are trying to ride the naturalista wave and you know a few somebodies will buy it just to see if it works on their hair.  Or how about this...if it's meant for only a certain type (see the hair type list goes from 2-4; 4 being the kinky curly) then say that!  Don't have ppl wasting money!!!  Nobody wants a bathroom full of shit that doesn't work! Period!  One website I will promote is curlynikki.com! They have reviews from real people on different products that let you know right off the top if the product does what it claims it will do.  Thanks Curly Nikki!!

I give a standing ovation to the PR person that setup the "I will not stand for" commercials because it allows one to vent about so many topics!!  Thank you and have fun spending that bonus! You deserve it!

Everyone one have a great weekend!  *peace and blessings*

Hello World...

This is my first blog!!! Yaaaaay!!! I broke the silence, finally! (whew!) I haven't journaled, diaried (new word) or anything in years!  Ok, this is my first blog and also the title of my blog inside NissaKaye's world.  So my first stuff to talk about is the fact that for 2012 I vowed to step back onto my path and quit taking the tiny trail/path that ran parallel to it.  yep that is possible.  I started out early in life in the gospel world, singing and playing not professional but once upon a time, I wanted to build up my skills to that level in both areas  However, I got frustrated and depressed about some other life stuff and gave up. I got tired of fighting what felt like an uphill battle.  I did write about it on Helium (http://www.helium.com/items/740095-unique-challenges-faced-by-children-raised-in-single-parent-homes).  I touched on my pain a tad bit and now i'm finally coming full circle and I'm glad about it.  You can also check out my ReverbNation.com/annissakelliott page and keep up with what i'm doing on my FB pages (Nissa K Elliott and Nissa K).  Moving to Atlanta has been the best thing I could have done with my life, I'm surrounded by beautiful spirits and I have no other option but to move forward.  And I love it!  So that's it for now.  Now that I'm starting I'm hoping to be a beast about it! LOL!! *peace and blessings*