Hello World....
I was speaking to a young lady the other day and she was sharing her new life moves with me. She was hopng that her new life included a certain young man that she could count on. But as soon as she really started sharing her action plans with him he immediately showed his true colors. Yep, the control monster reared its ugly head quickly and tried to push pause on her dreams. She stuck to her guns and disconnected from him immediately.
This conversation took me to a flashback of some specific memories. Made me think of times that I've allowed an insecure male individual to stop/pause a goal pursuit. WHY? Because at the time, I had the preposterous idea that I needed this dude (we'll nickname him "Any Dude") in my life to check off something. Don't get me wrong, I love our Kings and the right King is ideal for me but not just any dude. We ladies have to be careful because "Any Dude" comes in all shapes, sizes and mindsets. You see "Any dude" can be:
- One that doesn't have a plan and he wants you to not have a plan too.
- "Any Dude" may have some success under his belt but due to his childhood upbringing only knows how to attract and oppress a female individual. He doesn't know how to uplift because he's never learned it.
- "Any Dude" can also be manipulative and say the magic words and phrases to attract a motivated female individual with false support. And at his self-appointed time he will launch the "let me try to stop her" plan.
- If the female individual is strong-willed and determined, she will see the light immediately and break off any connection.
- If the female individual is wavering in the self-esteem department, sadly "Any Dude" has a chance of succeeding and crazy enough it makes him happy.
Sadly, "Any Dude" operates in a world of control. He LOVES to control other people, it gives him power, in his mind at least.
I encourage my fellow female individuals to organize your list, make a plan and work your plan. Check your list to make sure you stay on track. When obstacles come your way, adjust.
Control can be good and bad. On one hand, definitely make sure your life is stable but on the other hand don't try to control EVERYthing because some things are beyond that word; everything in moderation. There are some moments when you have go with the flow, still going forward, still working the plan go forward with a success. When you try to control EVERYthing, you literally arrest your ideas, and what happens when someone is under arrest? Yes they are stopped and locked up and that's what happens to your goals/dreams.
Lastly, don't get caught up in the bright lights and get distracted. Distraction is when "Any Dude" is able to slip in.
The title/topic is "Control".....watch out for that mindset. It can create chaos and confusion AND stop you from reaching your goals. Oh yes, one more thing......stay away from "Any Dude"!
Peace and Blessings....
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